We are always in our power. It’s simply a matter of how we’re using our power. Are we using it to disempower ourselves, or are we using it to empower ourselves?
When we find ourselves in conflict or in a situation where things are not being resolved. When we’re stuck in a repeating negative cycle or pattern, and we can’t seem to find our way out, this is the perfect time to stop and take stock of where we’re putting our power.
Because it’s always our choice. No matter how much we might want to blame others or feel as though it is genuinely not of our own doing, the truth is, only we get to decide where our energy goes. So if we find ourselves stuck in the middle of something unpleasant, unable to progress or resolve a situation, or in conflict, it means we are not holding our power, we have given it away.
Take a moment to notice a situation in your life that feels unresolved. Maybe there’s something you’re hanging onto, a conflict with a family member. Perhaps you’re holding resentment towards someone or something. Or you might be finding yourself gossiping and colluding with someone.
Each time we give our energy to these scenarios, we disempower ourselves. Because we can’t focus our energy on the low vibration and high vibration at the same time. So if we’re stuck in conflict, we are not able to create or express ourselves freely. If we are hanging out in resentment, we will struggle to find gratitude for the things in our life.
I recently found myself stuck in my own cycle of disempowerment. A conflict with a family member that I couldn’t move past. I talked about it constantly, enrolling people in how unfair it was, I thought about how I could ‘one up’ them, I obsessed over the things they had said to me, making it bigger and bigger in my head. It was becoming all-consuming.
I attended a sound healing and breath workshop in the city recently, where we were asked to imagine a person sitting in front of that we were currently in conflict. We went through a series of prompts, finishing with us giving an apology for what we were feeling, doing and saying. It was then reciprocated by the person in front of us. The next thing, we were prompted to imagine that this person in front of us, was actually a younger (child) version of ourselves. We went through the same process of seeing them, acknowledging how we had hurt and let them down, and apologising, promising to do better, now that we know better.
It was such a powerful exercise and a fantastic way to realise that the conflicts we often hold so heavy in our energy with others reflect unhealed or wounded parts within ourselves. This realisation can be very freeing, as we know we always have the ability to call our power back and take action to heal the parts of ourselves that need it.
So next time you notice yourself being drawn into low-vibe feelings or behaviours, simply take a moment to ask yourself – where is the power? If you notice the power is outside of you (if its low vibe, it always is outside of you), gently call it back.
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