What do you need to forgive yourself for today?

It’s a challenging question. The answer is likely to be more challenging. But there you have it. Nothing worth having comes easy. Self-forgiveness is so important, yet it is not easy.

Would you believe me if I said that many of us (women in particular), are guilty of holding onto something – purely for something to punish ourselves about? It sounds weird that we would keep something and use our energy to hold onto it, when it actually does us a disservice. Enter the world of being human!

Self forgiveness is a skill. This means it requires practice, repetition and the expectation that it will take a while to get the hang of. But it’s such a powerful asset to have in the toolkit.

Did you know, that everything we say (verbally or not), is stored at a cellular level? So things like negative self-talk, toxic thoughts, self-loathing or other forms of self-punishment are ‘heard’ by our body and processed like any other toxin?

Repeated patterns of this type of behaviour and cognition are scientifically linked to disease, illness, poor well-being and mental health concerns. Yet so many of us are guilty of it (*raises hand sheepishly*).

Furthermore, what we refuse to acknowledge and simply seek to suppress – will eventually come to the surface, whether we want it to or not. For me, years of suppression, led to the emergence of a significant health scare in the form of an autoimmune condition.

So we should be compelled to let stuff go. Give ourselves a break. Recognise we are actually human and we do make mistakes. We are perfectly imperfect!

Add another layer to this. Children. If you are like me and have kids of your own (or dependents of any kind), imagine what they are hearing, seeing and absorbing when you refuse to give yourself a break and be kind to yourself. Are you teaching children who can tolerate failures, and can try again when things don’t go their way the first time? Or are you teaching that any kind of humanness must be punished and is not tolerated?

My hubby and I are both very hard on ourselves. It is something we’re both painfully aware of and continue to work on. We set such high standards for ourselves and each other that we inevitably set ourselves up for failure. It’s not a sustainable way of living. Plus we have three kids watching.

So to help you today to identify where you might need to practice a little self-forgiveness, I have created three journal prompts to get you started.

1. What can I forgive in others today?

(P.S. interestingly, the things we identify in others, often can be related back to something we need to forgive or reflect in ourselves
P.P.S we start with this question, as it’s sometimes easier to identify something we need to forgive in others before diving into ourselves).

2. What do I need to forgive myself for today?

3. What is 1 step (just 1) I can take in forgiving myself today?

Take the time to set yourself up in a comfortable space, where you won’t be interrupted and set the intention of receiving information to support your highest journey before beginning. Use a journal to note your answers down, without editing or changing what comes through intuitively. Trust in the process.

Always take action as per what comes through in question 3. This is you showing your unconscious that you are willing to follow through on the wisdom it is sharing. If it helps, share it with a friend or share it in my ladies-only FB tribe here to keep you accountable.

And if you forget to follow through, remember to forgive yourself, then try again!

Live, Love & Laugh,

Tash x